Generally speaking, we have found that the less adversarial the process is, the better it ends up working out for everyone. Most importantly, this includes your children. So mediation or collaborative divorce are good places to begin. These methods will not be appropriate for every marriage, however, so it’s important to recognize that there may be a struggle or the mediation process may end up in litigation. That is not uncommon.
We have also found that in order to see your interests realized, you should have a plan for moving forward. For instance, some folks sacrifice their career aspirations in order to stay home and raise the children. When it comes time to divorce, they may need time to get training or to go back to school. This is where spousal support would come into play.
Ideally, both spouses can reach an agreement that works for everyone. When this process falls apart, however, the only option left is a contested divorce or litigation.