When parents share minor children from a relationship and must engage in co-parenting after ending their relationship with one another, the prospect of co-parenting can be anxiety-inducing and can be difficult for many different reasons. Yet when Ohio courts allocate parental rights and responsibilities for the care of children as required under Ohio law, parents will often need to be co-parents and will need to develop ways of making co-parenting work. It is important for children to have meaningful relationships with both parents in most circumstances, and children tend to adjust to life after a breakup or divorce best when parents can successfully engage in co-parenting. Indeed, children can see that their idea of a family has not been devastated by the breakup, and they can feel secure seeing that their parents are able to work together even if they are no longer in a relationship.
The following are some tips for successful co-parenting in Columbus that you should consider when you will be sharing custody of your minor child with your ex.
Remain Flexible When You Can
It is important to remain flexible when you can. Issues will arise that you cannot control, and successful and effective co-parenting will often require some flexibility from both parents.
Separate Your Remaining Feelings of Anger from Your Co-Parenting Relationship with Your Ex
It can be difficult to let go of some of the emotions from your breakup or divorce, including lingering anger at your ex-spouse or ex-partner. While it may take time before you are able to successfully move beyond those feelings of anger, it is very important to separate those feelings from your co-parenting relationship with your ex. If you are able to do so, focus on compartmentalizing the co-parenting relationship and keeping it separate in your mind from your previous relationship with the child’s other parent.
Focus on Your Child’s Needs
Putting your child’s needs first when it comes to co-parenting and interacting with your ex can help you to avoid disagreements and contentious interactions. Your child needs stability and consistency, and your child will thrive best if you are able to co-parent with your ex (even if you do not have a working relationship with your ex in any other capacity). By focusing on your child’s needs, you may be able to better compartmentalize the co-parenting relationship and interactions you will have with your ex.
Find Methods of Communication That Work Best for You and Your Ex
Consider a variety of forms of communication that can help you with co-parenting. For example, even if you do not yet feel comfortable having phone calls or face-to-face interactions with your ex, you can agree to communicate solely by text or email, or even download a co-parenting app designed specifically for these purposes.
Contact a Columbus Child Custody Lawyer for Assistance
If you have any questions about child custody and co-parenting in Ohio, or if you need assistance with your child custody case or seeking a modification, one of our experienced Columbus child custody attorneys can assist you. Contact the Lawrence Law Office to learn more about how we can assist you.