How Do The 5 Stages of Grief Affect a Divorce in Ohio?
The end of a marriage usually brings all kinds of emotional issues to the surface. We often see former spouses who are locked in knock- down-drag-out disagreements, unable to work together to face the process ahead of them.
People go through the 5 stages of loss and grief as they relate to divorce (denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance) at a pace unique to the individual. It is common for you to move between phases more than once before finally reaching acceptance.
In our experience as certified family law specialists, we often help the parties to understand this model, and how each person can be in a different stage at any point along the way. It is important to build an effective bridge to help communications to continue and to reach resolution on core issues while working through the attached emotional issues. It is also important to factor in these stages of grief when considering whether to file for a divorce or dissolution.
The impact of third parties (in-laws, friends, attorneys, judges) often serves to aggravate the situation instead of helping to resolve issues and bring the situation to a constructive close. It is important to consider all sides of the equation when approaching the end of a marriage. It is important to understand the emotional cost of the divorce process.
At the Lawrence Law Office we work to help build an environment where these issues can be resolved in faster timeframes, and with less emotional and financial burden on the parties involved.
Contact us at either of our office locations to talk with our certified family law specialist about your legal issues.
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Getting a divorce is challenging on multiple levels, and it can be especially difficult financially. The divorce process necessitates making determinations about how assets will be divided, and, if there are children involved, how to pay for their needs while managing two separate households.
Maintaining a standard of living for children
Often, parents hope to maintain the standard of living their children were accustomed to before the divorce. While doing so may be helpful for the children, it can be difficult to sustain. It may be necessary to adjust your and your child’s lifestyles to keep your finances in good shape and make ends meet.
Parents can put themselves on the right track by determining how much is spent on each child per year and creating a budget accordingly. Parents can begin this process by reviewing their finances as they relate to the children from the past year; in addition to day-to-day necessities, be sure to include the costs of activities, such as sports teams or camp, as well. It is also important to plan for unexpected costs, such as emergency medical bills.
If child support payments are involved, those expenses will need to be negotiated between the ex-spouses. Typically, child support is calculated by a judge and may be adjusted as things change in your and your former spouse’s lives.
Looking toward the future
You will also want to be sure you plan for your children’s future. The parent who is paying child support needs to have a life insurance policy so that the children will have those benefits if that parent dies.
Statistically, children with divorced parents have less financial support from their parents, according to the Journal of Family Issues. If you plan to help pay for your child’s college education, make sure you start saving early. Do not assume that your former spouse will take care of this funding.
Divorce poses many difficulties and concerns. When you are determining child support and negotiating how best to co-parent with your former spouse, it can get even more complicated. It is wise to consult an experienced family law attorney who can help you and your children get off to a good start.
The divorce rate among Baby Boomers has jumped by more than 50% over the past two decades. This is true in the Delaware, Ohio, and Columbus, Ohio, areas as well. What are the issues that are unique among Baby Boomers when going through the divorce process? When Baby Boomers terminate their marriage, one critical issue is how are they going to support themselves after the marriage ends. How are they going to maintain two households? While these issues are common in any divorce case, they are complicated by the fact that many Baby Boomers are approaching retirement age and will be living off of their retirement income and social security benefits. In a divorce, Baby Boomers need to know how to properly value these retirement assets and understand that there may be some benefit to terminating the marriage once the assets are in pay status. This critical issue requires advance planning and strategy. Consulting with your attorney months in advance of discussing ending your marriage with your spouse is beneficial.