How Do The 5 Stages of Grief Affect a Divorce in Ohio?
The end of a marriage usually brings all kinds of emotional issues to the surface. We often see former spouses who are locked in knock- down-drag-out disagreements, unable to work together to face the process ahead of them.
People go through the 5 stages of loss and grief as they relate to divorce (denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance) at a pace unique to the individual. It is common for you to move between phases more than once before finally reaching acceptance.
In our experience as certified family law specialists, we often help the parties to understand this model, and how each person can be in a different stage at any point along the way. It is important to build an effective bridge to help communications to continue and to reach resolution on core issues while working through the attached emotional issues. It is also important to factor in these stages of grief when considering whether to file for a divorce or dissolution.
The impact of third parties (in-laws, friends, attorneys, judges) often serves to aggravate the situation instead of helping to resolve issues and bring the situation to a constructive close. It is important to consider all sides of the equation when approaching the end of a marriage. It is important to understand the emotional cost of the divorce process.
At the Lawrence Law Office we work to help build an environment where these issues can be resolved in faster timeframes, and with less emotional and financial burden on the parties involved.
Contact us at either of our office locations to talk with our certified family law specialist about your legal issues.
Columbus: 614-228-3664; 496 South Third Street, Columbus, Ohio 43215.
Delaware: 740-363-0990; 24 West William Street, Delaware, Ohio 43015.
The divorce rate among Baby Boomers has jumped by more than 50% over the past two decades. This is true in the Delaware, Ohio, and Columbus, Ohio, areas as well. What are the issues that are unique among Baby Boomers when going through the divorce process? When Baby Boomers terminate their marriage, one critical issue is how are they going to support themselves after the marriage ends. How are they going to maintain two households? While these issues are common in any divorce case, they are complicated by the fact that many Baby Boomers are approaching retirement age and will be living off of their retirement income and social security benefits. In a divorce, Baby Boomers need to know how to properly value these retirement assets and understand that there may be some benefit to terminating the marriage once the assets are in pay status. This critical issue requires advance planning and strategy. Consulting with your attorney months in advance of discussing ending your marriage with your spouse is beneficial.
Many of our clients wonder who should file for divorce first and whether there is an advantage to be named the Plaintiff (the filer of the documents) or the Defendant (the spouse that would be served with the compliant). A critical issue with filing for divorce is the restraining order that may be put in place if requested by either party. If you are the party filing the document, you control when the restraining order is put in place and when the assets are frozen. Accordingly, it is appropriate to be proactive in planning when you would like to file for divorce and not be subject to the surprise filing of the other party. This may happen if the parties are contemplating filing a dissolution and one party is not negotiating in earnest and rather is using that as an opportunity to have a surprise filing in order to obtain a restraining order first. In a divorce case, the restraining order is an order issued by the court that indicates the parties cannot liquidate assets without the court’s authority while the divorce is pending. Often times, someone who is proactively attempting to file for divorce may attempt to drain a bank account, file for divorce and restrict the other spouse from utilizing any other assets in their defense of the divorce case or for other purposes. Accordingly, if you are contemplating filing for divorce, it is important to obtain legal counsel to develop a strategy so that you can be proactive in your divorce case.